Prayers for my grandparents

[klauss]

Just found out my grandmother was put on hospice last week due to a fall and subsequent head injury earlier this month. Same injury responsible for my other grandmothers passing years ago. I did not find out about this until today.

My grandfather had surgery on his prostate Friday and is still in the hospital. Just found that out today as well.

My uncles seem to be blaming my grandfather for her fall, although from my understanding he delayed his surgery for almost a year because she had/has dementia and could not be left alone and long term care was not an option.

I knew about the dementia ( pretty obvious) but was unaware of everything else. Between my grandmother about to pass, my grandfather’s recent surgery and he feels responsible for her fall( he was at a DR appointment when she fell if I understood right) I don’t think he will survive her passing.

It’s a big mess and I’m just a bit in shock. Not sure how I’m going to explain this to my kids.

[Johnny]

I'm sorry to hear about the terrible situation you now find yourself in. I see no easy solution and can offer no advice other than be strong and be the example for your kids. But you are already doing that.

[44044]

If at all possible, spend as much time

with your grandparents as you can...

You will never regret it

Prayers sent for y'all

[4thIDvet]

Sorry to hear of this klauss prayers on the way.

[aviator]

I'm sorry to hear that, You know, when folks get old things happen. Your uncles blame their father but did they ever go take care of them?

[GARANDNUT]

prayers sent.

I would recommend telling your children the truth but leave out the family infighting/allegations ect.

[klauss]

Originally Posted by aviator

I'm sorry to hear that, You know, when folks get old things happen. Your uncles blame their father but did they ever go take care of them?

Unfortunately I have no clue what happened or goes on.

Even when my father had his final stroke before his death several years ago I didn’t know for a couple weeks.

[aviator]

We have a part of the family like that.

[Sanders]

Prayers sent.

As well as prayers for my son-in-law's grandfather, who just went into hospice.

[9teen11]

Saying prayers Klauss. I do hope things are working out the best they can and that your grandmum is getting the care she needs. Old age is not easy for anyone in the story and there are always those who want to put their 2 cents worth in but aren't willing to roll their sleeves up and help so pay no mind to them. If you can be there for your grand dad that will be honourable and I am sure he will appreciate it. Its a very hard gig for old blokes when they lose their wives whether it be to death or dementia, in many ways its one and the same. I pray the grace of God be with you and them.

[klauss]

Thanks everyone

My grandmother passed late Sunday, my oldest took it really hard. My grandfather went home yesterday but fell and broke his hip last night and has surgery today . When it rains it pours I guess.

[aviator]

Oh man, sorry to hear, my condolences.

[9teen11]

Very sorry to hear it. May the good Lord be with you & your grandfather. He is in for a rough trot.

[Rick-a-Roo]

Prayers uplifted for you and your family, Klauss.

[drh]

Originally Posted by 44044

If at all possible, spend as much time

with your grandparents as you can...

You will never regret it

Prayers sent for y'all

My grandparents were the most loving and kind people I have ever known.
They always saved me from my abusive mother, but the sad part is, once I became a selfish POS teenager I, for a lack of a better word, abandoned them. Your post is spot on and I wish I could have a do over, but it is too late now.