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Old 12-26-2014, 09:48 PM   #16
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What Gus said ! ! !
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Old 12-27-2014, 07:53 AM   #18
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Dropping the boy off yesterday ripped my heart out. Counseling might be the key. Not gonna let it get ugly. I'm old enough to act grown up anyway. Thanks y'all.
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Old 12-27-2014, 11:57 AM   #19
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It takes two, amigo.

It sounds like you want to make it work, but she has given up.

She'll use that against you, as you'll be the nice guy and try to be fair with her.

Get aggressive and go for full custody of your son. That way, you may get less, but you won't get screwed over by being a nice guy.

There are divorce lawyers who advertise on the radio, who specialize in taking the father's side in divorces. If it gets that far, you should look them up.

My first marriage ended in failure (she ran on me), but I have one hell of a good second marriage.

My prayers are with you and your boy. The best thing there is for a kid, is two parents - their mother and father, together.

But again, it takes two to make it work out.
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Sorry to hear about that DS, tough especially at this time of year.

It sound as though you hope a reconciliation is likely, that she just needs time
to adjust to the financial hardship, although leaving never alleviates that burden.
Talk to those you trust as to how you may plan better for your financial situation;
but above all, keep the channels of communication with Mrs. DS open. And it
wouldn't hurt to have a quiet conversation with God as well.

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Old 12-27-2014, 03:42 PM   #21
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It takes two, amigo.

It sounds like you want to make it work, but she has given up.

She'll use that against you, as you'll be the nice guy and try to be fair with her.

Get aggressive and go for full custody of your son. That way, you may get less, but you won't get screwed over by being a nice guy.

There are divorce lawyers who advertise on the radio, who specialize in taking the father's side in divorces. If it gets that far, you should look them up.

My first marriage ended in failure (she ran on me), but I have one hell of a good second marriage.

My prayers are with you and your boy. The best thing there is for a kid, is two parents - their mother and father, together.

But again, it takes two to make it work out.
Try for PRIMARY custody, both legal and physical. Some courts frown on parents who try to exclude the other parent, and look well on those who want to involve the other parent.
You still want to have the deciding factor though, because a woman WILL use the child as a weapon and a meal ticket.
If you still live in the home and have a good family support system in place, an established custodial environment will work to your advantage.
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Although, shes discounts it, the addition of the head-med strattera may also be at least a contributing factor. I'll let the therapist broach that topic.......
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Went through a separation and divorce filing last year but with prayer and help from many people we worked through it and work on our marriage daily. Please check out www.retrouvaille.com that is the site for a national movement that holds retreats all over that save marriages that are broken beyond belief all the time with support from thousands and thousands of others
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If the move out was abrupt, their may be a somebody else.... Sorry to say it. But that's the way it was when Mom moved out on Dad.
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27 years with mine and the only way I get her out of the house is to send her on a cruise. This is getting expensive.
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Total bummer. Good luck with the situation.
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Hope this year is better.
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Spilt milk. When women move out it is time to move on. Protect yourself financially and think objectively. If the woman loved you...she would still be there. Sounds like you have been replaced. Man up and hire a divorce attorney and put him on the case. Accept reality...jump into the party pool and find her replacement. Life goes on with or without you. Fact. Been there, done that.
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27 years with mine and the only way I get her out of the house is to send her on a cruise. This is getting expensive.
Well.....mine insists I go along.

Last year I had a few days off when she accompanied the daughter on a band trip to DC and this year they are going to New Orleans with the Jazz band....and I'll be heading to the range. 37 years here.
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Loving up on the little man several days per week, praying for all it's worth too.
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